52. Find your one thing and achieve it with obsession.

Why are we here? Seems like a really question. Isn’t it? Of course, we put the ad on Facebook and so many other places. It’s about a lots of things, about questions that you want answer for. Looks so, right. But are asking the right question. The right question at this moment seems to me to be why are we all here. There may be struggling actors with failed dreams and hopelessness that among rich kids and influential people, he will never get the job. There may be a girl who sometimes cries while talking about the boy on phone with her friend who just left for reasons that make her feel worthless. She often cries on bus stop or while walking on a calm evening walk or in the morning while going to her college and she just doesn’t know how to stop. There might be someone who is trying to crack some competitive exam but no matter what he does, someone from his class who is been continuously enjoying himself and never seems to study, wins at all exams. There might be a housewife who is fed up of her routine life, of her husband taking her for granted, nagging of her in-laws and constant agony of having an identity crisis. There may also be a working individual who never gets promotion though he tries his best, someone who always gets late although he never wants to, someone who finds it difficult to balance between his personal and professional life. There might be someone amongst you who wants to do something in his life but don’t know what it is. There might also be someone amongst you who would like to earn a lot of money and become rich but don’t know how to become rich. So, lets come back to the question that I asked all of you earlier, why are you all here. Well to seek answer. Isn’t it? So, shall you get. Jesus Christ said in an interview with someone who wrote Bible that “One who seekth is the one who findth”. Since you are all seeking, so you will find.

But how can I help you? Is it in my capabilities? Am I certified to tell you that I can solve your problems? Or is it a scam where I will just fool you or steal two hours from your precious life. May be. Anything can happen. This is life. But now since you have come here and spend half an hour or more in coming all the way to this place, don’t be skeptical anymore and trust that your life is going to get changed in two hours. And I promise you if you listen to everything that I am going to tell you and juts listen and not do anything else, it is going to change your entire life. You are going to be a different person all together when you will be out of this place after two hours. You must be wondering, oh wow, what a boastful claim but it’s not boastful, you know why, because anything and everything that I am going to tell you today is my own creation. It has been a process of years of thinking, experimentation, scientific proofs, experiences of generations and generations of people who have been through what you are going through and learned some important laws and  principles which they passed on to their fellow human beings to see if that works for them or not. Sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn’t. The people then got confused that if the same principle can work for one person then why not for another. Parameters, paradigms and exceptions were considered and finally more stronger rules were conceived. Sooner people realized that again they don’t work for everyone. They tried to refined it more. Until. Until they realized that the fine refined principles and laws weren’t wrong but it is a two way process. The agreement of the person following the principles with the principles is the most important thing. Some few minutes before I told you to listen to me if you want to bring change to your life. Trust me, after two hours I will out of here living my life and trust I live a very nice life but if you don’t listen to me, you will be back to where you were and you wouldn’t have gained anything. But to gain something, you need to hear me, to gains something, you must listen. But why am I emphasizing again and again on listening part. IT’s because most of you think that you are listening but in truth you are not, you are just preparing your defense or answers for what the other person is saying to you. You are not here to talk and I won’t give you any chance to justify yourself. For that you can see a psychologist who will charge you 2000 rupees per hour and that will be it. But here you have to promise me that you will listen to me with your ears and complete attention, and with complete attention I mean you should not think of anything else that has happened to you, anything that is ever going to happen to you. Forget what people before have taught you, forget what religion you belong, be as primitive as a human being who was a first born on a blank planet yet to create life. Clear your mind of all the theories you have made till now, queries that you have created and thing taught to you. For two hours, be a sponge and absorb as much as you can. That is the only thing who will make you a different man when you will walk through that door today.

I want you all to turn and look at that gate and imagine yourself going out of that as a happy man. There may be some of you who might be thinking of this as a silly exercise. But be a sport, and lets do something really stupid today. Let’s just look at that door and imagine that when we will go out of that door all our problems will be solved and we will be the most successful and the richest man in this whole world.

Now, I have put small packs and given that to all of you. Inside it, there are five cards. I refuse to believe that there can be more than five problems at a time in a man’s life that is of grave importance. Write all the five problems in those cards. If you have less problems, then find some problem in your life, seek desperately, trust me you will find it, but fill those cards. I will be back after five minutes.

So I guess you all must have written those five problems. Now put that pack below your seats and forget everything about it. After some time, I am going to show you some magic about it.

Now let’s start the process. But where do I start? There is so much to tell and reveal. Let me start with a story. There was a film maker and writer who came to Mumbai with dreams in his eyes and pen in his hands to become something in his life. He was in a good relationship with a very beautiful and highly educated girl. A girl of his dreams. In next four years he assisted a lot of directors, write a book, directed two films worked in all departments of cinema like art, camera, direction, editing. He was a voracious reader, avid movie watched, he had good knowledge of everything, good English speaking skills. He was s software engineer and son of a high post government official. But something went wrong with him. His book didn’t get publish, his movies never got released, he remained poor with no money and he had got no friends. He also broke up with his girlfriend and could never look at any other girl. He was exhausted from life and there when he looked at future, there was only a blank screen in front of him. Sitting in an empty apartment whose rent he knew he wouldn’t be able to pay that month, he asked himself what went wrong in his life. That day he asked a question to himself, a question that he never asked himself before in his life. What went wrong? That day he had all the time to seek answers. He sought answers and he started asking questions. The answer came to him in different forms. And suddenly when answers start to come in front of him, he got this flashback kind of thing that he knew the answers all along, the answers were being told to him throughout his life. He just missed them and couldn’t see them. A good change is never too late. He realized that it was time to change. If everything is turning against you, change the direction.

That guy was me and day came in 2014. That day was the day I first listened to the secret. Yes clichéd as it may seem. But it did change my life. It teaches law of attraction which I will explain it to you in a little while. I met a lot people since who though that secret is a marketing hoax or something that sounds good but doesn’t work. But the Secret was about those people who desire to do something with their lives, and until and unless you want that, it won’t matter to you.

What is the secret and why it worked for me and not for other people. The secret is law of attraction s they as say in the book and documentary. A nice of way of putting things and saying that whatever you think turns true.

Let me tell you another story that started all the motivation and self-help though process to all modern people. In 1937, a book came out named which was written by a 47 year old man who has been researching on the subject for nearly twenty years. The book was named think and grow rich. It talks about secret too.

Let’s talk about the one thing. Let’s forget everything and bring one thing on front of us. I am to saying that we will discuss things one by one, no no .. I am talking about just and only one thing. What is one thing that you can do right now that can change your life. you must find that one thing. If I will ask any of you what is that one thing you probably might not be able to answer it. You will get confuse. There is where the main problem lies. You haven’t prioritized thing. You want to start one thing, but then you remember that there was one more thing that you had to do which was more important, you move on to do that.  But then again you remember that there was a thing which you half did and it would be easy to finish it first. One thing leads to another and it turns out that you have a circle of things, one depending on another for happening and nothing ever gets done. But time passes off. Why does that happen? It’s because out mind is very powerful. But people have two types of mind. One is our mind which uses the help of our Hindi English words which are basically nothing but instructions to mind. Just like coders like codes to give instructions to our mind, similarly we give instructions to our mind to do what he wants to do. But there is a problem. Our subconscious mind has a Greek Sanskrit kind of problem. Our subconscious mind is like our grandfather wo doesn’t say much to us but he is one who is taking all decisions. We don’t know but our subconscious mind is the one who answers everything based on our mood and desires. If you don’t want to do something and you ask you mind, what should you do. The answer will be reasons and excuses for why you should not do it. Because though you have asked a right question to your mind seeking honest answer. You get honest answer in the form of what you really wanted to hear.

Find your one thing. You can’t think of becoming a great actor and a great business man at the same time. That cannot happen. Remember I never said you cannot become these two in one lifetime. You can and you can become successful in both these endeavors. But the problem is that you can only achieve other thing when you achieve your one thing first. One thing does not mean a marriage to a goal for a lifetime. It just means having and focusing on that one thing for a certain period of time till you achieve it.

Let me tell you another story. This is a story of a man who was born in a village. His father was in military so he was mostly out. His mother would take care of him. Since he had lots of brothers and sisters so taking proper care of everyone was not possible. The boy would hang around with different kids and people. Somewhere he learned about someone who has a good body and he would earn money by just showing off his body. The boy got intimidated by that man’s body. The boy started building his body and soon he developed a very good body. He didn’t have money to take drugs and all and he purely depended on healthy food. Soon he started winning championships. Then he came to America and won eight Mr. universe titles in a row. You know now who I am talking about. Arnold Schwarzenegger. Now that’s a story that we all know but here is the second part of the story that we don’t know. In 1992 a film came that was titled terminator-2, and the world champion who has extremely bulky with extra muscles, with an ugly face, with no acting skills and with bare English speaking capabilities was paid an amount of fifteen million dollars which would be like 90 crore rupees, remember in 1992 to act in a movie in which he has so few dialogues that if you count on your fingers. How did he do it. An interviewer once interviewed this alien looking guy in 80s when he was struggling to get a Hollywood film. He asked him that now since he was retired from body building in which he was no.1 all these years, what was his next move. Arnold said and I am quoting his exact words from that interview that he wanted to be the no.1 and highest paid Hollywood star. Literally, that interviewer told later that he laughed bitterly inside. That statement would make anyone laugh. But what interviewer didn’t know was that Arnold had set his mind to it. He could visualize himself doing it. When he was young he had found his one thing that was body building, he focused on it and he became the no.1 bodybuilder in the whole universe. Now since he achieved it, now he has another one thing, one and only one thing to become the highest paid and no.1 Hollywood star. He focused on it and soon he got it. The world laughed at his ambitions and they applaud when he reached there. The one thing, once decided, lets up gather up all your energy and focus one and only one thing. The thing to be achieved.